Meeting Expectations
I have a habit of being quite the self-effacing lad. Quite a nice habit, I find. It balances the pronounced high self-regard. My joke for explaining it, as I have a joke prepared for nearly every serious question that might come my way, is that I have low self esteem but a huge ego. I particularly like this joke as it tends to leave people who do not know me grasping at straws for a response. My alternative joke involves multiple personalities and that seems to be kind of a hit or miss joke. Not particularly funny to those who have a family member with mental illness, so I tend to avoid it now.
Right, so, a certain young lady has expressed a liking for yours truly. I, perhaps, might be moved in a similar direction for her. Having been dating off and on for, oh, I dunno, fourteen years now, it seems to me that there really should be a sort of Consumer Reports guide to Paul. Every year it examines the current model and let's you know where the issues are and how it performed in certain, important areas. Of course, I know that the romantics among you think that discovering the other person and learning about them is part of the whole dating experience. Yes, indeed, but...
Just do not want to disappoint or hurt someone because they did not have a firm understanding of what they were getting into. At the same time, I do not want to warn a young woman off either. "I'm terrible, flee before me!" Just sometimes difficult, frustrating, moody, a complete ass, brutally honest, and lacking in many social graces. And it is not because that is who I am at core, I consciously choose to be those things outwardly. Yet, at the same time I have, er, a great personality. No, really, I can be charming, generous, really really funny, and even on occasions nice (it's like a seizure, certain things just trigger it).
As it was Laura who said it, and she and I were having a lovely conversation on whether I am good or bad the other night, I think this quote kind of sums it up well: “He’s such an @$$, but he’s really one of the most wonderful, tender-hearted guys you could ever hope to meet! He’s so great! And yet, so scary! But...oh, we just love him!!”
Hm, yes, so let's just make sure there are no expectations that I am a nice, well adjusted guy sans issues. Because, really, it is not true. Still, I do make fantastic Pad Thai and French Toast...
Right, so, a certain young lady has expressed a liking for yours truly. I, perhaps, might be moved in a similar direction for her. Having been dating off and on for, oh, I dunno, fourteen years now, it seems to me that there really should be a sort of Consumer Reports guide to Paul. Every year it examines the current model and let's you know where the issues are and how it performed in certain, important areas. Of course, I know that the romantics among you think that discovering the other person and learning about them is part of the whole dating experience. Yes, indeed, but...
Just do not want to disappoint or hurt someone because they did not have a firm understanding of what they were getting into. At the same time, I do not want to warn a young woman off either. "I'm terrible, flee before me!" Just sometimes difficult, frustrating, moody, a complete ass, brutally honest, and lacking in many social graces. And it is not because that is who I am at core, I consciously choose to be those things outwardly. Yet, at the same time I have, er, a great personality. No, really, I can be charming, generous, really really funny, and even on occasions nice (it's like a seizure, certain things just trigger it).
As it was Laura who said it, and she and I were having a lovely conversation on whether I am good or bad the other night, I think this quote kind of sums it up well: “He’s such an @$$, but he’s really one of the most wonderful, tender-hearted guys you could ever hope to meet! He’s so great! And yet, so scary! But...oh, we just love him!!”
Hm, yes, so let's just make sure there are no expectations that I am a nice, well adjusted guy sans issues. Because, really, it is not true. Still, I do make fantastic Pad Thai and French Toast...
– Friday, 2008 April 18 @ 8:34 PM | 8 Comments -